Say Yes

If you can’t say NO, 

then you can’t say YES

Life is an endless round of ‘oh, go on then’

When we agree to do things we don’t want to do, we get resentful and eventually we get angry. We can imagine it is the other person forcing or persuading us to do something against our will, but we are responsible for our choices, when we realise that we become angry with ourselves.

It can be hard to start saying NO, we think people won’t like us or we’ll loose all our friends, but think of this, if they are only our friend because we go along with them how can that we a friendship.

When you can truly say NO, then you can say YES

When you say NO to others you are saying YES to yourself

New Year Wishes 4

New Year Resolutions

Be honest:  Look at the aspects of yourself you don’t like and that are sabotaging your desire to change, making positive affirmations about yourself that you don’t really believe don’t work and be damaging to your self-esteem.

Be prepared:  Set up structures that will help you achieve your goals, what do you need to bring about change?  Put them in place. Be prepared for the effort you will have to put in.

Be specific.  This is paramount in achieving goals, so the say loose weight isn’t enough, you need to set a realistic time frame over which to measure your weight loss, so to loose 3 stone will take around 28 weeks, so your end goal date would be around mid-July, just in time for your summer holiday, as motivation picture yourself in that great bikini.

Be realistic:  Usually the focus of our resolutions have a wider impact on our life and will call for some real changes, in short we are looking to reinvent ourselves or some aspect of our life, this involves changing habits, particularly bad habits. Don’t set unrealistic goals and expectations.

Can You Say No?

Can You Say No?

If you can’t say No then you can’t say Yes

Life is an endless round of “oh, alright then”

Saying No is not as simple as it may sound, it can be really hard to say No but when we say  ‘oh, alright then’  we feel resentful and resentment can lead to anger.

We get angry with others for thinking they are being selfish and we get angry with ourselves for not saying what we really want.  And if we think others are selfish for getting what they want then we think we will be seen as selfish if we ask for what we want.

Not asking for what we want, or saying No to something we don’t want, makes us feel that we have disregarded ourselves, we’ve told ourselves that we don’t matter, others matter more, or they are more important than me, or they won’t like me if I say No, they’ll think I’m being selfish.

Here are some other self-words that we embrace when we dare be ourselves:

·       Self regard ·       Self respect ·       Self worth ·       Self esteem ·       Self awareness ·       Self belief

·       Self confidence ·       Self reliant ·       Self sufficient ·       Self discipline ·       Self determination ·       Self regulation

Love & blessings

Lynne