Can You Say No?

Can You Say No?

If you can’t say No then you can’t say Yes

Life is an endless round of “oh, alright then”

Saying No is not as simple as it may sound, it can be really hard to say No but when we say  ‘oh, alright then’  we feel resentful and resentment can lead to anger.

We get angry with others for thinking they are being selfish and we get angry with ourselves for not saying what we really want.  And if we think others are selfish for getting what they want then we think we will be seen as selfish if we ask for what we want.

Not asking for what we want, or saying No to something we don’t want, makes us feel that we have disregarded ourselves, we’ve told ourselves that we don’t matter, others matter more, or they are more important than me, or they won’t like me if I say No, they’ll think I’m being selfish.

Here are some other self-words that we embrace when we dare be ourselves:

·       Self regard ·       Self respect ·       Self worth ·       Self esteem ·       Self awareness ·       Self belief

·       Self confidence ·       Self reliant ·       Self sufficient ·       Self discipline ·       Self determination ·       Self regulation

Love & blessings

Lynne